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Oct 182014
 

A job, a house, a family, faith, a steady relationship, knowledge, a field of specialty . . .   these and many others serve as our measuring stick for what we call “security” or “stability”.
Many of us regard the words “security” and “stability” in the particular context of “something that is good, beneficial, preferable, desirable and which should be sought and pursued”.

This view ignores one very important thing: Reality and the Truth. The Truth is that a job, family and all the others, are temporary. We have some of them some of the time, and then they are gone. At the same time, we use our labels of “stability” and “security” in an attempt to find everlasting happiness. We confuse our own labels of “stability” and “security” which are impermanent, with happiness which we’d like to experience constantly. We confuse happiness, which can only come from within, with a long list of items that come from the outside: a job, relationships, occupation etc’.

All on our own, we create this powerful illusion and perpetuate it day after day, year after year, one thought at a time – constantly.

The Truth is this;
There’s nothing wrong with having money.
There’s also nothing wrong with not having money.
Happiness has nothing to do with either.
There’s nothing wrong with having a relationship.
There’s nothing wrong with not having a relationship.
Happiness has nothing to do with either.

Happiness has nothing to do with anything. It is a natural product of inner peace. It is our natural state of being (prior to our own interfering) and does not depend on any circumstances – not even health. We use our thoughts, ideas, words, emotions and habits to create an illusion of reality, which we then believe. These thoughts, words, emotions, habits and ideas are akin to throwing pebbles into a still lake, disturbing its surface – without realizing that we do – and then waiting for this lake to become still. Only when we stop, can we finally see through our own self-created illusion / self-deception, and realize that we don’t need anything in order to become happy right now, regardless of whatever the circumstances may be. Not because “it could be worse”, but because everything simply IS, beyond good and bad, seeking and rejecting, and whatever other labels we attach to life and the world. As long as we don’t experience inner peace, the illusion still exists.

When we have a job we could lose it, we could lose our house in a fire or storm, we could lose a loved one and we could lose our health or body parts. All the things that we regard as secure and stable are an illusion. Just like a statue made of salt that would melt with the next rain.

And somewhere deep inside we know that all these things are perishable. This is why we are anxious – we struggle to keep this false stability in place, knowing very well that destruction could be waiting just around the corner. We create contradiction inside of ourselves and perpetuate it. It takes tremendous amounts of energy to live in self deception moment by moment for one’s entire life, and we can only stop once we begin to see through our own self-created, self perpetuated illusion.

Unhappiness, anxiety, bitterness, anger, confusion, disappointment, shame, cynicism, doubt, blame – these and many more are a wonderful indication that we live and believe the illusion. When there’s no illusion, all that there is left, is peace. Happiness is a natural byproduct of peace.

Jun 122014
 

There are two kinds of arrogance. In the first, we are aware of our being arrogant, while in the second we have no such awareness. We can begin to see the unaware kind of arrogance through any of the following, which belong in this category:

  • Making assumptions
  • Taking for granted anything at all (our body, health, relationships, home, abilities, capabilities, disabilities)
  • Having any expectations
  • Believing that we truly know anything (including knowing ourselves)

I can understand anyone who would resent reading the above; most of us don’t like to think of ourselves, or be thought of as being arrogant and according to the above, 99% of us are arrogant. But if we consider “humility” to be the opposite of “arrogance”, and try to find where exactly the dividing line between these two polar terms cross, we may find ourselves continuously pushing the line towards “humility”.

Suffering is not a standalone phenomena. Imagine a pendulum swinging from one side to the next; On one side is suffering – on the other is pleasure, happiness and satisfaction. When the pendulum is stabilized in the center, that’s where there’s inner peace, a sense of wellbeing, relief and stillness.

Arrogance is instrumental in pushing the pendulum further to the suffering side, giving it more momentum and preventing its rest at the center. The reason for this is that we unknowingly use aware/unaware arrogance to protect ourselves against the truthfulness of reality, which is always unknown. We create an illusion of stability that is non existent and at some point the inevitable happens – reality strikes and we break down along with our illusion.

Looking again at the list above we can see that making assumptions, taking anything for granted, having expectations etc’ are all prone do surprise and disappointment. Those result in suffering to one degree on another. The stronger the expectation, assumption etc’, the stronger the surprise. If the surprise is pleasant, the pendulum is pushed to the “happiness side” and if the surprise is unpleasant, the pendulum is pushed to the “suffering side”. Either way, the pendulum is given momentum and the peace and wellbeing that’s in the still center escapes us.

Some of you may think that arrogance is better avoided but that happiness, satisfaction and pleasure on the other hand, should actually be sought. But again, one cannot exist without the other. True peace and equanimity exist beyond good and bad, pleasant or unpleasant. It is the same in the face of turmoil, loss, grief and illness as it is in the face of pleasure, satisfaction and happiness. It is the liberation from circumstances. When we are no longer in the graces of what the next moment brings – which is always unknown – we become free.

Apr 202014
 

Did you ever find yourself being in the midst of a dream, totally absorbed in everything that was happening. Then suddenly, the following understanding came to you:
“This is just a dream!” ?
What if this exact same understanding came to you while you are wide awake?

Imagine sitting behind the steering wheel of a car. You have been behind this steering wheel for as long as you can remember yourself. Driving.
One day, you get the shock of your life; this car that you were driving all these years is mounted on top of a flatbed tow truck to which you were completely oblivious. All of the sudden you understand why sometimes, when you wish to go in a certain direction, you end up elsewhere.

Our life is just like that. We live with the illusion that we are behind the wheel and in control of our ride. We expect certain things to happen based on our actions, and many times experience a whole variety of painful emotions, when our expectations are not met.

Until we wake up.

Waking up, is the thought (or idea or understanding or knowing) that what we thought was reality, has actually been our own creation.
It is no wonder then, that so many of us would rather not wake up at all. The shock might just be too great for us to endure.

But here too, we are not behind the wheel; we don’t have a say on whether or not to awaken, just as we have no say on how, where, when and under what circumstances such an awakening is to occur.

Is life going the way you want it to?
Do you get unpleasant surprises along the way?
Is it possible that living your life is similar to driving a car that’s mounted on a flatbed?
Only once we realize that in fact, we have far less control than we may believe – and not before that – that we’ll be able to begin living differently – more connected to reality. Only then will we be able to get out of our car, sit behind the wheel of the tow truck, and perhaps for the first time in our life feel that life responds to us in a way that makes so much more sense.

But it doesn’t end here.

An awakening may not necessarily be a single, one-time-only event. Of course, some people don’t even experience a single awakening in their lifetime. But others could experience several awakenings.

How could that be? Isn’t an awakening simply the end of an unconscious state of living?

Not exactly.

An awakening is an opening up of our field of vision or understanding – of our bubble. Suddenly we can see (or realize or understand or know), that what we used to think was everything – the world, life, reality – was in fact just a fraction of something much larger. And yet our new view – our new reality – as much as it is larger than we may have previously known – is again, not truly “all that there is”. It is not complete. We can in fact, awaken again and again, to experience a continuously larger view and understanding of reality, both that which is inside as well as outside of us. Using the previous example, this would be akin to the flatbed being mounted on top of a freight train, the train being on top of a ship, and so on. Indefinitely. Which really means that we are never in full control, we never perceive reality for what it truly is and that there’s always more. ALWAYS.

Our limitation – that is, being a human being – will never allow us to see, perceive and understand reality for what it truly is. That’s because our senses, which are the tools that we are given for connecting with and understanding reality, are filters. These filters allow some information in, but leave much information out of our reach. Our vision allows us to see, but only in a limited range. The same is true for hearing, smelling, tasting and sensing. Even if our senses had the ability to detect the entire range (of vision, sound etc’), does that mean that there is nothing else in the universe? Just five channels?
I find it very hard to believe. Reality is infinite, and I believe that although we can detect five “channels”, that there is in fact an infinite number of channels.

But there’s more.

The way in which our bodies are built, we have separate receptors to detect sound, vision, smell etc’. Reality however, may not have separation of any kind. It may well be that smell, taste, vision, hearing and the tactile sense, are all part of a single unified expression of reality, along with an infinite number of other means of expression of which we have no reception capabilities.

From my own personal experience with two very different awakenings, I can say that there was no similarity at all between the two, and yet both were so powerful, that everything that I knew to be reality, changed completely afterwards. Both transformations were wonderful and I was left with awe and infinite gratitude and appreciation.

Being open to the idea that an awakening is truly possible, opens the door to its actual unfolding in ones own life. Expectations to have an awakening, stand in its way. An attitude of simplicity, gratitude, humility, acceptance and allowing, open an invisible door which bring us closer to the possibility of such an experience.