Jun 012016

A difficult to name feeling, that is shared by many of us. We may be unable to explain it to others, or even to ourselves. Sometimes, we believe that we know the reason, but later realize that it is something else.

This feeling comes in different forms. It could be ongoing, or repeatedly waxing and waning. It may be gone for several years and then come back. It may feel like seeking, disconnectedness, loneliness etc’.

Consider this;
There’s a word: ‘I’. We use it all the time: I work… I am reading… I wish… Etc’. Words are labels for mental concepts. It doesn’t mean that what these concepts represent is Real, only that we – both as a society and as individuals – have created them and now use them. The moment that we use the word ‘I’, we create separation.
If there’s an ‘I’, than the ‘I’ stands separate from everything else.

When there’s a word for ‘I’, and there another word for ‘God’, God and I are separate. We use language so automatically that most of us are oblivious to the finer “side effects” of language, and yet subconsciously, the emotion that we experience by such use, is that of separation. Many of us make significant efforts to be closer to God or the spiritual, or “the beyond” – or whatever word one wishes to use. At the same time, only very few of us experience proximity or unity with a higher spiritual essence. ‘I’ and ‘God’ remain separate, by virtue of our existence as separate manmade concepts.

This being the case, separateness can be substantially reduced through some personal work, though perhaps of a somewhat unfamiliar kind.

Below, is a practice that may change all that.

We are trying to become aware, of ourselves using the word ‘I’. As soon as we realize that we have just used the word ‘I’, we should do the following:

  1. STOP!
  2. We may experience a sudden inner silence. When this occurs, we allow the silence to be (without any doing, acting or interfering on our part) for as long as it lasts. There’s a consciousness shift taking place at this time, one which is beyond words, concepts, thoughts, emotions or sensations.
  3. Once the experience of silence has ended, we move on with whatever we were doing previously, as if nothing happened.

There’s no need to avoid using the word ‘I’, although that may be an added layer to this practice, one which some of us may wish to try.

This practice takes some patience and perseverance. There is no end result, only an increasing sense of connectedness, relief and liberation.

When we begin this practice, we are likely to be using the ‘I’ without noticing, practically all the time, which is completely understandable. Gradually we become more aware and notice our use of ‘I’ more and more often.

This is an exercise in awareness. We increase our awareness to include something which has previously been below the radar of our consciousness. Each time that we do this practice, we create a tiny hole in the wall of separation. Tiny enough that we may not notice anything. Continued patiently over a period of time however, we will notice several things:

  • We will be noticing our use of ‘I’ more and more frequently.
  • We will become aware of being about to use ‘I’ even before we actually say it.
  • We will begin to have an experience of increasing unity with all things: known and unknown, familiar and unfamiliar, physical non-physical and spiritual, inside of us and outside of us, of this world and beyond. It is a very powerful experience, awe-inspiring, amazing, uplifting and liberating and certainly not of this world.

When we begin, It would best serve us to put our expectations away. It will allow us to stay with this practice over an extended period of time – long enough to reap its remarkable benefits.

Apr 132015

They could be poor burglars stealing from individuals; extremely rich and powerful people stealing from entire countries; or anything in between. If they get caught, they may or may not be punished – depending on their financial abilities and connections – but regardless, their behavior is not acceptable by society at large and generally honest people prefer not to be associated with them.

Generally speaking, society considers such behavior as antisocial, and it is not difficult to feel anger towards such people, especially by those who need to work very hard to support themselves and their families. That makes perfect sense. People feel: “If I can contribute my time and hard work to benefit both society and myself, why shouldn’t everyone?”. It’s not difficult to understand such feelings.

This however, assumes that in essence “they” are just like “us”. But are they?

One is incapable of hurting anyone, in any way, unless they hurt and suffer themselves.

Some of those people who take from others, may feel that it is wrong and judge themselves as wrongdoers. At the same time they continue with theft and are unable to stop, just like any addiction. Some of them may be completely oblivious to their own actions, even when they pay a dear price for it.
It is amazing that some of these people have billions in the bank; they really don’t need any more money but they cannot stop.

It is almost surprising to find fear as part of this formula, but fear often disguises itself as a whole variety of different thoughts and emotions. Fear is part of this equation is various ways:
1) The fear of loss and of lack.
2) The fear of incompetency, of being incapable of doing something else.
3) Fear of being held hostage by accomplices, who may report past wrongdoing if one attempts to change their ways.

Other emotions are also possible:
1) Hate: “Everybody is stupid and they deserve to have everything taken from them”.
2) Anger, resentfulness or contempt: “I am much smarter than most people. I should have much more than others”.
3) Disappointment, frustration or retaliation: “I used to play by the rules and got crushed. Now I’m going to play by my own rules.”

Any of the above emotions are the result of suffering and hurting. Like all toxic emotions, they have very limited logic to them, which is also an indication of what limited view of the world such people have. They don’t see what many honest people know intuitively, moreover, they may be afraid to change and allow themselves to see beyond their current capabilities.

If punishing such people had been effective, we would have seen a decrease in crimes. But in reality we see the opposite. Punishment cannot solve this situation. We cannot lock them away and pretend that they are gone and the problem is solved. If we are to help ourselves as a healthy society, we must help these people.

Judgement, criticism, contempt, fear, hate and similar emotions, will not allow us to make any positive change. It is only by listening, becoming compassionate and with a lot of patience – like that of a loving parent to a misbehaving child – that we can begin, slowly and with many setbacks, to show such people unconditional love and acceptance. With time, it is those positive emotions that will help us achieve a positive change for them and for us. Love and compassion are true healers. And remember; by helping the other, we help ourselves.