The way that I see it, failure is impossible. Life is given to us and we are here to explore, to interact with a physical world through a physical body, to change the world and be changed by it. The world is limitless, endless, infinite. The only thing that is limited is our ability to comprehend. In our attempts to try and understand this limitlessness, we dissect it into smaller, supposedly more manageable parts. We then label these artificial slices, that we created out of something that’s whole, complete and perfect, and actually believe that understanding these man-made chunks gives us an understanding of the whole. We do this with the world that’s outside of us and also with the world that’s inside of us. Putting in tiny separate drawers bits and pieces of the whole, to create illusion of an understanding of ourselves and of the world. We mistaken our understanding of reality, with true reality. Sooner or later contradictions occur between the two and we experience emotional pain as a result, when the world doesn’t meet our expectations.
Failure is just another such label that we created for something that doesn’t truly exist.
We cannot go wrong no matter what we do. Every moment spent in this world is success: Getting a job or losing it, spending the days in the office or in prison, being married divorced widowed or single, remembering or forgetting, passing the exam or not, achieving what we wanted or not, being happy or not. EVERYTHING.
Being in this world IS by itself success. We interact with it, change it and are changed by it.
Many of us don’t realize that we are successful right now, regardless of how much money or status we have, and right here begins a journey of seeking, expectation and disappointment, regardless of whether we achieve our goals or not.
This is not to say that we should not have goals, only that regardless of whether we achieve them or not, we cannot fail.
Our understanding of success and failure has to do with social consensus more than anything else. Some would say: “Well, everyone knows that there’s such a thing called success and failure”. And so when “everybody knows”, only very few actually stop to think that perhaps this worldview may be incomplete and misleading.
Being a part of a society, doesn’t mean that any arbitrarily agreed upon consensus, is necessarily true or real. Being unaware of our own worldview, is surely to confront us with reality sooner or later, as well as perpetuate our ongoing emotional and psychological roller coaster. This world view of ours, has been imposed on us since birth. It continues to hold us in a subconscious auto-pilot-living-mode day after day, as we regularly see people around us comply with its dictum.
Those of us who believe – for example – that money, power and status are synonymous with success, tend to limit our interaction with the world, clinging to money at the expense of other experiences. We may or may not find money and power, but being taught to equate the end result with happiness and satisfaction or otherwise with disappointment, we do as we were taught, most often without questioning. We do so not because of denial, but because we are unaware of our own way of seeing the world.
We just got what we wanted! YAY!
Are we now successful? What if this perceived success is the beginning of a domino effect of loss and pain? How meaningless would such a “success” be?
When our awareness grows beyond a certain point, we can fully see that whatever the result happens to be, it is our own choice whether or not to be emotionally connected to it. The moment we realize that, we become liberated from our personal roller coaster of drama and playing the role of the victim.
We cease to suffer.
We become free.