There’s a saying:
“The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment”.
Most of us have expectations. We use our expectation as one of the means to guide us. That is to say, we create an invisible line connecting the action in the present moment, with the expectation for a certain outcome in the future. This line that we create is a path and a path is a direction. This way we know (or so we may think) where it is that we’re headed.

But what are expectations?
We can only expect something that is familiar. We can only expect something that we already know that exists. In other words, anything that we can possibly expect, belongs by necessity in the past.
Effectively, our expectation is for the past to replay itself – preferably, the more pleasant parts of the past.

But the future holds the potential for the unimaginable. It hasn’t yet happened, and it could be anything at all.

When we exercise expectation, we block infinite possibilities from entering our life. Possibilities that are not a part of our past knowledge or experience, and therefore are beyond our ability to imagine. And so effectively, and usually subconsciously, we use our own expectations to create a life that is repetitive and with little meaning. The path that we create via expectation, is therefore not a straight line, but a closed loop.

What’s the difference between having an expectation and having no expectation?
The fear of the unknown and the unfamiliar.

As long as life is lived in fear, this fear creates an invisible boundary that marks the end of one’s own world/life/sphere of existence. Anything outside of those boundaries is inaccessible for those individuals. The greater the fear, the smaller the size of one’s own sphere of existence – one’s own world.

Not only that; exercising fear, feeds fear. It makes it more powerful and it invades more and more parts of our life. It paralyzes us. Hope, by the way, is just an expectation. We created a vocabulary that favors a certain type of expectation over other kinds, we called it hope, and decided that we value it. But hope too, is based on our past knowledge and experience, and so our hope doesn’t allow for the truly amazing and unknown to make an entrance into our sphere of existence – into our life.

There’s a saying:
“Hope is the last thing that one loses”.
My wish for us all is that the next thing that we lose – and hopefully very soon – will be our hopes, along with all other expectations. Once we do, those invisible boundaries that encase and contract our world, will disappear. Every single day will become an experience of amazement at the vastness of the possibilities, amazing synchronicities that will happen for no apparent reason and an experience that the world is helping us every moment and with everything. Anyone who hasn’t experienced this, doesn’t know that such a reality truly exist. And this reality too, is only one possible reality. There is an infinite number of realities that are possible. Our thoughts, opinions, state of mind, beliefs etc’, decide which reality is going to be ours.

Expect nothing, Allow anything, and be amazed.

Oded Ben-Ami

Oded Ben-Ami is a mystic, Chi-Gong teacher, mentor, writer, and musician. He dedicates his time to the exploration of the non-physical realm, its effect on our physical world and the means by which it can be affected by the mind

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  1. I’m not sure I always some expectations. But once in a while I have a goal for myself. For my own goal, I naturally very hard but I don’t disappointed. I failed this way so now I would try another way. I will keep going until I get my goal. Some people say I have strong determination but I think I like everything simple. So usually I focus on one thing and give me a enough time to achieve. Maybe my thought is different what this article says but I feel “expectations” which I cannot focus on.

  2. The last sentence is personal for me…. and so true.

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